Beginnings are always special; you might find it scary but the mystery of the future makes you just want to go on with it and find out what might happen along the way. Friendship is like that as well. When you’ve been friends with someone for a couple of years already, it doesn’t follow that you will be forever friends. On the other hand, it also doesn’t mean that you can’t be forever friends, because you really don’t know what the future holds for everyone.
3 years ago, Yvette, Ces, Bea, Abby, Renee, Shaiy, Corie, Mel and Gaddi(MIA) crossed each others’ paths. After 3 years they are ALL still together despite the distance, the differences, the new bunch of people in each other’s lives, their crazy busy schedules and the whatnots of life. Three years ago they asked each other to always be in their lives, to always make time to update each other and fortunately, they were all true to their words.
And just like the old times, Abby and I having our houses near Northwalk waited for everyone to arrive almost after 2 hours. Luckily, Bea and Cess were around after an hour of waiting for them. Abby and I had the time to catch up with each other’s lives. I used to always know everything about her since we both go to the same university and I used to be an Accountancy student. When I shifted, I only knew some bits of information about her. I still think that it was a good move for others to be late, yet again, since we had the chance to have this heart-to-heart talk that we used to always have back in first year college.
I still remember when we all used to text each other lengthy messages during Christmas, New Year’s or one’s birthday and go all about how much we appreciate and love each other. Or write long testimonials in Friendster. Now, even though we just get simple hi’s and hello’s from each other it still matters to us because it just screams that we still think about our friendship and that we care.
It really is hard to maintain a relationship with someone, much less with a clique in high school. You really don’t have the assurance of the cliched word forever since you do not even know if it’s true to it’s meaning. The only thing that can and may prove that it exists is time— time will always, in all ways be our friend since it measures how much your words and actions mean through the years.
We were conversing about an issue and then suddenly I went like, “I wish that we would all just live in a subdivision then Corie will design our houses, then while we’re having coffee just like this but with our own children Cess’ would suddenly be called by her network to cover something, then we will just see Shaiy model in front of the coffee shop while Yvette manages her, and then Renee will audit all our huge accounts, while Abby will take care of the accounting of our money, Bea would be touring us when we go around the world when we have the means to do so already, while me and Michelle try to do our thing in the media, I make films and she’d be part of it and everyone would have a cameo.”
Just like the old times, we’d be having a mirror shot whenever someone’s bringing a camera and there’d be a mirror. Back when Instagram didn’t exist and point-and-shoot cameras were so mainstream, we would all fill it with photos of us. And thank goodness for 3.5 megapixel cameras back then, we were able to treasure worthwhile moments of our friendship through the years.
Just like the old times, Bea would be the forever alone in our group. BUT, in reality she really isn’t. She is our group’s walking energy, she just never rans out of it and we love her dearly for that. Getting bullied by your friends just means, in our group, that we love her.
It dawned on me that nothing really is permanent in this world no matter how much I ask and pray for our friendship to remain the same. Because no matter what, no matter how much we try, it wouldn’t. And I’m not saying this to defy what I just said before, I am just being realistic here. I used to be the girl who was so so idealistic about everything in this world. When I was in high school and first year college, I already had all these grand and bold ideas about what would my life be like after 10 years or what. I never entertained the idea, more like, the fact that a lot of things would change for us through time. Little did I know, life really doesn’t work that way. It just doesn’t even though you are motivated but not driven about it.
10 years from now, I pictured us in a compound in the city that we love, having the time of our lives and everything’s working perfectly for all of us. I pictured us living like what a gang in a sitcom does, HIMYM-esque, or F.R.I.E.N.D.S. I think at one point it’s good to daydream about such, but sometimes you’d just wake up and realise that it’s not going to happen in real life. That friendship is really messy, that it’s hard to balance your time and let others get to know the little things that are happening around you, about you. I am not even certain if I’d be friends 10 years from now with all of my high school friends, but I believe it can if you just be persistent about it. If you’re that devoted about your relationship with your friends.
Despite friendship’s uncertainties, the petering conversations that you’d all have in the future because of the lack of things in common to chatter about just like you used to back when you’re all just in the same school, and all the other factors that might affect your relationship, I’m still positive that something will always bound us together. And those are the memories that we all shared together. It can persist through a memory of an old song that you guys used to sing in the karaoke, it can persist through a photograph taken when you all had your first sleepover or when you went out of town for the very first time, or when you all see someone you used to despise, or when you go to a coffee shop that you all used to go to for a hang out. The chains might get loose, but I know my friends will always be my friends no matter what.
That’s why you guys are in my life.
And now I’m leaving you all with a photo of my friends Renee and Bea, the Twins in our group. With all the sad things that I’ve written in this post, I think it deserves to commence with a crazy photo of this two best friends that remains as such despite LIFE’s happenings. :)